My question is how do I know when:
1. the system is full of water with,
2. no air left in the system AND
No more air comes out of the bleed points, and the pump isn't making gurgling noises are air goes round and round ?
3. the Expansion Vessel has not filled with water.
I feel like there is a simple answer and I'm being really stupid but it seems to me that the water I push in to the system to purge further air out will simply fill the Expansion vessel until capacity. The pressure gauge is no help to me because I pressume this will rise to the pressure equal to the pre-charge on the EV and the continue to show this pressure (P*V=C) until the EV is full, then rise to the 3bar limit on the Pressure relief valve.
Ah, I believe you don't understand how the EV works.
There is a bladder or diaphragm in there to a) separate the air/gas and water, and b) prevent the charge pressure escaping when the system pressure is low (or the EV is not connected to anything).
As you pressurise the system, initially no water will go into the EV - the gas pressure will hold the diaphragm down and prevent water entering. When the water pressure matches the initial charge pressure then that changes. Any further increase in water pressure will cause the gas to be compressed and water will enter the EV - the water will not completely fill the EV.
As you note, P*V = constant. But, you need to work in absolute, not relative pressure. 1 bar on your gauge is actually 2 bar absolute - the 1 bar you are reading, plus the one bar atmospheric pressure. Say your EV was charged to 1 bar, then at the maximum pressure set by the 3 bar relief valve, the volume of the gas will be 2 / 4, or 1/2 of it's original volume - so the EV will be 1/2 full of water.
I think, it's been a long time since science lessons at school

So getting back to your filling. If you know there is still air in the system, you can fill to above normal pressure and put some water into the EV. Then when you open a vent, the EV will push some of that water back into the system. it will help a lot if you can have an assistant to keep topping up the system though.
A tip I heard on another forum (for filling heating systems) was to use a pressure reducing valve (of the same sort as used to lower the pressure on the cold water supply) set to a low value, and fitted with suitable fittings/hose so that it can be used in place of the normal filling loop. You can then just leave the water on while you go round letting air out and the reducing valve will just keep topping the pressure up automatically.