Thanks for your comments O MidKnight,
How fab - did my beloved doctor and myself pass by you on our recent 3 week tour of Scotland?
We're on the Eastern edge of the Cairngorm National Park (outside edge) - were you anywhere near there?
Which roof is south?
The South facing roof is the one with the dormer windows in the picture above.
How about a ground mounted solar panel so they will thermosyphon up to the cylinder? Reduce the need for electricity.
The ground mount idea doesn't sound good - we're keen gardeners, there's a perfectly good roof and electricity isn't that degree of an issue anyway.
If not and room is short then a small well insulated extension/boiler room to hold the proposed solar cylinder/pumps/under floor heating control items etc?
We do plan to locate the HP part of the GSHP in one of the out buildings, but putting the hot water tank out there (or in a it's own extension) isn't really an option though under other circumstances I could see the attraction of a plant room.
You could consider a combination cylinder in the house which has its own cold header tank and is quite compact. Not really suited for lots of baths if mains water pressure is a bit on the low side.
I did wonder about a hot water tank with its own header tank, but figured it wouldn't be small enough to fit in the limited space available (height = 80cm (min) to 180cm (max) over 120cm from wall to stairwell) see image

There's three of us so I was figuring on a tank at around 200 ltrs give or take. But we also have a huge enamel cast iron bath so a small header isn't an option really. Though do we need a header at all - I don't know plumbing regs, so I don't know if we have to have a header tank off a well or just off anything for that matter?
Horizontal specials cylinders are not as efficient as verticals plus may not be as reliable. I once fitted (20 very odd years ago) 6, one after the other for a customer. Each one had a leaking coil. In the end a twin coil vertical was fitted. Must have been a spate of Friday specials.
Why are horizontals not as efficient? Is it the way the water stratifies? Does it matter more or less if the tank is only for DHW? and does it matter more or less if it's being heated by solar? Given that your horizontals were 20 odd years ago, Friday specials or no,t I would hope things have improved since then .... ?
Talk to the GSHP guys in case an extra coil might be of use at a later date - and who knows what energy source may be just around the corner.
I have spoken to the GSHP guys (Kensa - sorry Ivan

) it was them that advised against tying the two systems together since DHW operates at much higher temps than is optimum for UFH and GSHP. That seems to ring true since one of my neighbours has installed a combined DHW/UFH system heated by GSHP and it's costing them a lot more than they expected, because the GSHP is having to bring the temps way up for acceptable DHW so I guess the COP works out rubbish! Or do you have a tip off about the future .... ?
Well water - any problem with excess deposits in the pipes/cylinder?
I've no idea about deposits in pipes or cylinders - if it helps, we drink the water straight out of the ground unprocessed or filtered (it's been tested by the local authority as safe) and there are no green copper deposits on our sinks or bath despite the water being slightly acid.
So I'm still wondering whether I need a header tank?

Whether a horizontal cylinder would be OK if I did (not sure a vertical one would fit anyway)?

Something I haven't mentioned yet is what pressure I need for a decent shower - subjective I know, but I don't even know how our pressure compares to mains - there must be rules of thumb?!

Cheers,
Phil