So you have plenty of room for improvement :-) You won't be able to do all the below (especially if there is pushback from the natives), but do the ones you can over time - many of them make no difference at all to 'the lifestyle'.
tumble drier - these can be really shocking, but at least turn it off when not in use (TOWNIU)
cold fill washing machine - when you've got your thermal going read the threads to make it use hot water. TOWNIU
cold fill dishwasher - Ours works fine using solar thermal hot instead. TOWNIU
freezer - measure this as soon as you can. Old ones can be deeply inefficient.
fridge - as freezer. (but ours is old (and free) and surprisingly good - lives in very cool kitchen, so it varies)
busy kettle - same here! Very low duty cycle on these so not too bad overall. More efficient ones now exist.
halogen lights in kitchen/diner - Burn them! This could be a really big load. Get some LEDs
random lights left on everywhere. - Turn them off.
several toasty transformers driving Christmas lights - Get switch-mode ones if these are old-style.
3 hot water circulating pumps - see if the lower speeds still work. More efficient ones exist but can be v. expensive..
computer - TOWNIU, configure sleep modes if ti tends to get left on.
phone chargers - TOWNIU
2 TV's - TOWNIU
'Whats the big deal about £150 a quarter electric bills anyway ? ' is the only response I've had so far.
Could only come from someone who doesn't pay the leccy bill, couldn't it.
If you don't spend it on leccy you could spend it on something more desireable?
Would mentioning the drowned cities, floods of immigrants, ruined world for children, and expensive food that are coming if everyone doesn't get their finger out, help at all? Probably not, but worth a try - it works on some people.
Maybe point out that a bad attitude to energy efficiency is likely to make one a social pariah in the next few years, so getting some smug green points now is a good plan.